Talking about girls in Romania is very difficult, as there’s always a risk to generalize when it’s not the case. Each girl has her own personality and purpose in life and ways to achieve it, but after receiving a comment from Eric, I decided to try and tackle this delicate matter and write this Romanian Girls “guide”.
Basically, Eric was fooled by a Romanian girl who took advantage of him. Therefore, I decided to come and help all those interested in meeting a Romanian woman and help you make sure that you find true love in Romania, and not just be taken advantage of.
First things first: 99% of the girls that I know in this country are amazing people who would always put love above financial gains and would not even accept the idea of receiving a monthly “allowance” from their boyfriends. Or anything like that.
99% of the Romanian women that I know are strong, independent individuals who are able to make their own money or just make it work with what they have.
So most likely, you will be in a similar situation to mine and meet one of the millions of girls living in Romania who want nothing than a genuine relationship based on mutual love, trust and respect and not a gold digger, a scammer or anything like that.
You can find these genuine, honest girls online on various platforms – because everything has moved online right now.
My recommended one is a premium service like this one – this is your best chance to meet genuine Romanian women and easily filter out the bad seeds. It is a premium service offering premium quality for those interested in real relationships.
But not all Romanian girls are like this and there’s a very small percentage (just like it happens in every country, I would say) that is looking to gain as much financially from you, without being attracted to you or planning for a future next to you.
And you should be careful with this type of girls, since they can be extremely deceptive and eat up all your money (or a big chunk) before you even realize that you’re being played!
Obviously, this article will focus more on this type of girls and highlight some of their traits so you can stay well away from them.
How to identify Romanian girls who want to take advantage of you and scam you
There are always some signs out there with girls that are more interested in getting your money (and remember, since Romania is a relatively poor country, most foreigners can be considered rich by Romanian standards: our average wage is about 675 EUR or $820!).
Usually, I would say that if any of the alarm signals listed below are present, you should be really careful and reconsider the relationship with that particular lady.
She might not be with you for your good looks and charming personality…
Have in mind that these “signs” are not always a proof that your newly found Romanian girl is only interested in your money, but chances are that she is:
1. Good looking girls that invest a lot in their beauty and are way above your grade.
I know a few girls who invest all the money they have in fancy clothes, visits to the nail & hair saloon and all possible methods to improve their looks with the only goal in mind: scoring a guy with lots of money.
They are dressed to impress and manage to be extremely attractive. They play hard to get, but not too hard to get (just enough not to make their intentions obvious).
They want to make you believe that it’s your win if you manage to get into their good grace and get a date!
Generally, if she seems to be way out of your league and still interested in you, you might have to wonder what her real intentions are. It might happen every now and then to be true interest, but usually it won’t be.
Of course, now you shouldn’t consider all ladies who are careful with their looks scammers who only want your money!
Actually, most Romanian girls are very careful to look good, are clean and nice to the eye. But if she goes above and beyond her means to look good and tells you how expensive she is, that is a bit alarm signal!
2. She is surrounded by single ladies who seem to have a similar attire and attitude.
A group of Victoria’s Secret model lookalikes is most likely a group of girls not looking for true love. Otherwise, they’d certainly not be single. Or at least some of them wouldn’t.
Some of these girls might even work in “pairs” making you think that you scored big when they decide to both join you… but don’t be fooled here. These will obviously not be ladies for a long term relationship and are only interested in your money!
3. Clubbing is her life. Clubs are for hook-ups mostly and everybody knows it.
Although there might be genuine ladies interested in real relationships hanging out in clubs (that’s the place where you can meet new people, duh!), if they like to spend all their time in clubs, they’re probably not looking for commitment.
Even more so, many of them can’t really afford it. So if you meet a nice woman in a club in Romania drinking a club soda, only to order that expensive champagne once she accepts to join you, consider it a big alarm signal!
4. She never has the intention to pay for anything and orders the expensive(ish) products. This is another sign that she might not be interested by anything else but your money.
It is customary in Romania for the man to pay for the drinks (and/or food if applicable), and even small gifts are acceptable at first, but it’s also common sense that the girl should at least offer to pay for her share, even if she knows or expects you to pay for it.
So if she doesn’t even bother to look at the bill and she’s extremely high maintenance from the get-go, that’s a clear signal that this is how things will be from that moment onward.
5. She owns a lot of things that she wouldn’t afford otherwise.
‘The comment that inspired me to write this article talked about a girl that just finished college, had no job and no plans to get one soon, yet she had an 80,000 EUR apartment paid in full (this is a humongous amount here in Romania) and driving the latest model BMW, which was all paid for too.
Unless her parents were incredibly rich and supported her, that money came from taking advantage of other men’s weaknesses.
So always be on the lookout and if she has things she can’t really afford, be careful! Somebody must’ve paid for those and maybe stopped, so she’s looking for a new “sponsor”.
It doesn’t have to be expensive apartments and fancy cars, it can be just expensive jewelry and designer clothes. Some do settle for less.
When you’re earning 600 EUR per month, it’s very difficult to buy nothing but genuine Armani bags and tons of gold and diamonds if you don’t have somebody else paying for it!
6. She outright asks for money. This should be on the top of the list, actually. If she asks for money or subtly hints that you should give her some, she might not be the soul mate you are looking for.
Some girls even come up with sad stories: their parents are sick, their siblings are sick, somebody close to them is in really bad debt, some terrible accident happened and they need some money, urgently.
They can be extremely creative here and extremely convincing as well that they’re nothing but genuine, honest persons that truly need help… but usually that’s not the case.
This is a big warning sign that you should consider and even though they will try this sooner rather than later, some can be very patient and wait 6-12 months before their “big hit”.
If you really suspect that it’s indeed true what they say and you really want to help, try to make sure that the problem they’re talking about is indeed real (by visiting the sick relative or something similar, like offering to go and personally pay the doctor’s bill or buy medicine and such(,.
I know a Romanian girl who was talking with this guy from the UK over the internet, videochatting a lot.
She had a really bad tooth and kept saying that she can’t afford to get it fixed, as it was too expensive for her at about 200 Euros. (which was a fair price).
Now, this was a really smart thing: the amount itself is not that huge for somebody living and working a good job in the UK, the problem was obvious (she really had a horrible, decaying tooth) and she was just complaining about how expensive it was, not asking for money.
Eventually, the guy gave in (without her ever asking) and offered to send the money for her to fix her teeth.
As soon as she had the money, she blocked the dude and never talked to him again.
Now that’s a bit of work for 200 Euros, but if she manages to do that to at least 3 people per month, she’s already earning the average salary here…
7. She’s not always there for you. Although times are changing in Romania too, usually Romanian girls are very dedicated to their partners and extremely loyal and supportive.
There are no reasons for her to spend nights out on her own, be unavailable for hours (without a real reason) or refuse to introduce you to her friends. And especially family.
Most likely, if that happens, she does it because she has obligations and meets other people. When things are starting to get serious, you WILL meet the family (sooner rather than later).
8. Eating out. Again, times are changing, but most of the people living in Romania are not used to eating out a lot. Fancy restaurants are generally out of the question, too.
If she expects to eat out a lot – or do any activities that aren’t so common here in Romania (visiting other countries during the weekends, taking short vacations, ordering expensive items), she might not be interested in true love, but getting the most of your money while they last.
9. She acts like a Prima Donna trophy. The more beautiful she is, the easier to act like this. This generally means that she will do her best to let you know that it’s your win if you’re dating her.
She will play hard to get, she will be very moody, she will openly let you know that she’s high maintenance, she will expect gifts from you (yet she won’t buy anything for you) and generally, she will make sure to let you know how lucky you are to have found her.
Back in the days when I was young and stupid, I fell for a girl that kept telling me how her ex pawned some of his belongings to buy her some fancy clothes or jewelry she liked.
I was fortunately not that stupid and realized what she was after when she told me the same story for the third time, always related to a new phone that she wanted to have.
How to meet real Romanian women?
Now that you know how to stay away from the bad seeds, it’s time to see how to actually improve your chances at meeting some beautiful and honest Romanian girls that will love you for who you are.
You have two approaches here: the traditional way and the easier, faster modern way via the internet (which is getting more and more popular).
When I say “traditional way” I mean all classic pre-internet era ways of meeting ladies: approach them directly when you see them in bars or pubs or clubs.
You can also try your game by approaching them in regular situations, but be warned that most ladies are not very receptive when being approached on the street.
I also believe that in pubs or clubs, it is difficult to find somebody interested in a long term relationship.
They could be, but chances are that since we’re talking about a much younger crowd here, if they’re single and looking, they’re not really searching for commitment. Which can be a pro or a con – depending on what you want.
But the easiest way to meet women and avoid the horror of being rejected in public is choosing an online method.
And you’ll be surprised to find out that Romanian ladies actually spend a lot of time on dating apps and they are really active online, considering this a safe method of meeting new guys and forming relationships, both long term and short term.
For both genres, it reduces the chances of meeting a freak or somebody that’s really not compatible with you.
My recommended website for this is this one – this is a Premium site (meaning that it has a fee associated to using all of its features), which means that you’ll have fewer people to compete against and more serious ladies listed there.
This is not exclusively targeted to Romanians, but you will easily find a lot of charming Romania girls and women to interact with – and they will speak English since the app itself requires it, so you know you have a good start.
Being on such a website means that they’re also looking for a man to be in a relationship in, so it’s exactly what you want. A perfect opportunity to meet your better half!
Tinder is also popular in Romania, but the free mobile app is not really for those looking for more long term commitment.
If you’re looking for faster, but not necessarily long term relationships, Tinder could be a good option. Being a free service, though, it’s full of scammers and gold diggers and also a lot more competition.
But with a bit of due diligence and some luck, it can be useful, especially if you’re more into the having fun part and not the commitment.
Sure, it’s not as good as my recommended premium website and you don’t have the guarantee that the ladies will actually speak any English, but you can try it as well, remembering that it’s the younger crowd that uses it and the girls there are also more on the casual side of things…
These would be things to be aware of when looking for a Romanian girl or woman and true love in this country.
Not all the signs must be present for her to be interested only in your money, and it might still mean that she really loves you even if all the signs are present… which, I know, makes things a bit more complicated.
Try to use your common sense instead of letting your heart do the thinking: most of the girls here in Romania are simple, loving and great persons, so the chances of finding a scammer are really slim as long as you keep your eyes open. Good luck finding your match in Romania!