Talking about girls/women in Romania is very difficult, as there’s always a risk of generalizing when it’s not the case. Each girl has her personality and purpose in life and ways to achieve it, and and they have all changed in the several years since I originally wrote this article.
So today, I am updating my guide to Romanian girls to give you my honest opinion on the current situation.
Because things are much different now than they were initially when I wrote this piece, after one of our readers posted a comment saying how he was fooled and scammed by a Romanian woman who took advantage of him.
So, if you’re interested in meeting a Romanian woman – or if you met one and you’re wondering what to expect – this guide has everything you need to find true love and not just somebody who wants to scam you. Because…
Romanian women are amazing!
I will start with the obvious things: 99% of the girls here are amazing people who would always put love above financial gains and would not even accept the idea of receiving a monthly “allowance” from their boyfriends. Or anything like that.
99% of the Romanian women are strong, independent, beautiful, with amazing features. You’ll notice the blend of Latin roots and Eastern European features, a mix that turns heads everywhere from Bucharest’s old town to a village bus stop. But anyone who stops there misses the bigger story.
Today’s Romanian woman is as diverse as any in Western Europe, the US or anywhere in the world. Yes, some still value tradition – cooking at home, cleaning the house, and taking pride in their appearance.
But you’re just as likely to meet career-driven professionals, outspoken feminists, single moms juggling two jobs, and women who’d rather travel solo than settle down too young.
In other words, even if you were to randomly pick a lady here, you’d be in a similar situation to mine, and find an AMAZING woman that completes you, makes you better, and makes you happy – maybe even one similar to our most famous models…
But there’s the 1% you have to be wary of, and I’ll touch on that soon. First, though…
Where to meet these amazing Romanian girls
The easiest way, especially as a foreigner or if you don’t live here yet, is to go online. Keep it traditional to increase your chances and go for a premium website like this one here – it’s your best chance to meet genuine Romanian women and easily filter out the bad seeds.
It is a premium service offering amazing features to those interested in real relationships.
I have talked to many foreigners who managed to find what they now call their true love on that website. The advantage is that, being a premium service with active moderation, not only does it filter the bad ones, but also offers less competition and only gives you genuine ladies actively looking for a relationship.
The “Traditional” Route
Of course, if you are here, you can also approach them in person. This will also work well, as most Romanians have a sweet spot for foreigners, but you will find out that most prefer the online route better – at least when it comes to meeting new people (hey, they also have to filter the bad seeds!)
The problem with the traditional way is that parties or pubs rarely result in serious connections. If you’re looking for a fling, they’re perfect though.
Apart from that, cafes, parks, gyms, workplaces and various social gatherings are great places to meet your Romanian crush.
Just keep in mind that your approach matters a lot: be respectful and not too forward – Romanian women usually appreciate subtlety and can be put off by aggressive advances, especially from foreigners. “Small talk” is fine, but be genuine.
Also keep in mind that street approaches are not very common here. They might work, but make sure you’re as friendly as you can and non-threatening. Unfortunately, the ladies here have had enough bad experiences to be wary.
But not all Romanian girls are like this and there’s a very small percentage (just like it happens in every country, I would say) that is looking to gain as much financially from you, without being attracted to you or planning for a future next to you.
And you should be careful with this type of girls, since they can be extremely deceptive and eat up all your money (or a big chunk) before you even realize that you’re being played! So… let’s see how to filter out the bad ones!
Signs that Romanian girls want to take advantage of you or scam you
It only takes one bad experience to sour your view, so here are the warning signs that have come up time and again, both from my own circle and from readers who’ve reached out:
1. Good looking girls that invest a lot in their beauty and are way above your grade.
I know a few girls who invest all the money they have in fancy clothes, visits to the nail & hair salon, and all possible methods to improve their looks with the only goal in mind: scoring a guy with lots of money.
They are dressed to impress and manage to be extremely attractive. They play hard to get, but not too hard (just enough not to make their intentions obvious). They want to make you believe that it’s your win if you manage to get into their good grace and get a date!
Generally, if she seems to be way out of your league and still interested in you, you might have to wonder what her real intentions are. It might happen every now and then to be true interest, but usually it won’t be.
Of course, now you shouldn’t consider all ladies who are careful with their looks scammers who only want your money – if you spend some time here, you will notice that most women do care about their looks!
2. She is surrounded by single ladies who seem to have a similar attire and attitude.
A group of Victoria’s Secret model lookalikes is most likely a group of girls not looking for true love. Otherwise, they’d certainly not be single. Or at least some of them wouldn’t.
Some of these girls might even work in “pairs” making you think that you scored big when they decide to both join you… but don’t be fooled here!
3. Clubbing is her life. Clubs are for hook-ups mostly and everybody knows it.
Although there might be genuine ladies interested in real relationships hanging out in clubs, if they like to spend all their time in there, they’re probably not looking for commitment.
Even more so, many of them can’t really afford it. So if you meet a nice woman in a club in Romania drinking a club soda, only to order that expensive champagne once she accepts to join you, consider it a big alarm signal!
4. She never has the intention to pay for anything and orders the expensive products.
This is another sign that she might not be interested by anything else but your money.
It is customary in Romania for the man to pay for the drinks (and/or food if applicable), and even small gifts are acceptable at first, but it’s also common sense that the girl should at least offer to pay for her share, even if she knows or expects you to pay for it.
So if she doesn’t even bother to look at the bill and she’s extremely high maintenance from the get-go, that’s a clear signal that this is how things will be from that moment onward.
If you want to learn about the other side of the picture, you can read my guide to men in Romania here.
5. She owns a lot of things that she wouldn’t afford otherwise.
The comment that inspired me to write this article talked about a girl who just finished college, had no job and no plans to get one soon, yet had a 100,000 EUR apartment paid in full (this is a humongous amount here in Romania) and was driving the latest model BMW, which was all paid for too.
Unless her parents were incredibly rich and supported her (this happens), that money came from taking advantage of other men’s weaknesses.
So always be on the lookout and if she has things she can’t really afford, be careful! Somebody must’ve paid for those and maybe stopped, so she’s looking for a new “sponsor”.
6. She outright asks for money.
This should be on the top of the list, actually. If she asks for money or subtly hints that you should give her some, she might not be the soul mate you are looking for.
Some girls even come up with sad stories: their parents are sick, their siblings are sick, somebody close to them is in really bad debt, some terrible accident happened and they need some money, urgently.
They can be extremely creative here and extremely convincing as well that they’re nothing but genuine, honest persons that truly need help… but usually that’s not the case.
This is a big warning sign that you should consider and even though they will try this sooner rather than later, some can be very patient and wait 6-12 months before their “big hit”.
If you suspect that it’s indeed true what they say and you want to help, try to make sure that the problem they’re talking about is indeed real (by visiting the sick relative or something similar, like offering to go and personally pay the doctor’s bill or buy medicine and such).
I know a Romanian girl who was talking with a guy from the UK over the internet, video chatting a lot. She had a really bad tooth and kept saying that she couldn’t afford to get it fixed, as it was too expensive for her at about 200 Euros. (which was a fair price).
Now, this was a really smart thing: the amount itself is not that huge for somebody living and working a good job in the UK, the problem was obvious (she really had a horrible, decaying tooth) and she was just complaining about how expensive it was, not asking for money.
Eventually, the guy gave in (without her ever asking) and offered to send the money for her to fix her teeth. As soon as she had the money, she blocked the dude and never talked to him again.
Now that’s a bit of work for 200 Euros, but if she manages to do that to at least 3 people per month, she’s already earning close to the average salary here…
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7. She’s not always there for you.
Although times are changing in Romania too, usually Romanian girls are very dedicated to their partners and extremely loyal and supportive.
There are no reasons for her to spend nights out on her own, be unavailable for hours (without a real reason), or refuse to introduce you to her friends, especially family.
Most likely, if that happens, she does it because she has obligations and meets other people. When things are starting to get serious, you WILL meet the family (sooner rather than later).
8. Trophy girlfriend behavior.
If she constantly reminds you how lucky you are to have her, expects regular gifts without reciprocation, or brags about past boyfriends buying her expensive things, it’s time to reassess.
The Flip Side: Romanian Women Are Worth It
The red flags above shouldn’t make you think that you have to look elsewhere. Trust me, you actually want to build a relationship with a girl from Romania – a true, REAL, genuine one! If you do, you will get:
Loyalty and Support: Romanian women are fiercely loyal. Once they trust you, they’re all in, going above and beyond for their partners. Family support is strong, and you’ll be treated as part of the clan once you’re in. This sense of belonging is amazing!
Emotional Depth: Romanians tend to wear their hearts on their sleeves. Don’t expect cold, transactional relationships; expect honesty, sometimes delivered with a bluntness that catches you off guard, but which is rewarding in ways that can’t be described in words!
Practicality: Raised in a country where “making do” is a way of life, real Romanian women tend to be resourceful, adaptable, and not easily impressed by superficial displays of wealth. They still know how difficult is to be successful, and they will appreciate genuine men just for that.
From city professionals to rural traditionalists, students to single moms, you’ll find every kind of partner here. Just be honest about what you’re looking for, watch out for potential red flags, and you will be pleasantly surprised.
If you’re ready and still don’t know where to start – remember my recommended website. This is where you should be right now!
Conclusion
Dating a Romanian woman can be one of the most rewarding experiences you’ll have – many of this website’s readers can vouch for that (and I can too!). But keep in mind that success with them doesn’t come from flashy gifts or expensive dinners – it comes from building genuine connections.
Most women here are just that: caring, special, AMAZING and not looking to scam anyone. Keep your eyes open, use your head as much as your heart, and you’ll surely find exactly what you’re after.
And if you want to impress her, hone up your Romanian skills and learn how to tell her “I Love You” in Romanian – plus a few more words and phrases.
Good luck! And if you have stories to share – please do so in the comments down below.
Having lived in Romania for over 4 decades, I am here to tell you everything about this beautiful country. I hold a bachelor’s degree in Journalism, I love traveling and I’ve been writing about Romania since 2013. Currently living in Constanta.
Hi Calin
I want to thank you for the Romania Girl’s Guide. I think I have found a Romanian lady in the 99% category. I have known this lady for over 18 months, and we have a great friendship. Our obstacles are distance, some 15,186 kilometres to be exact, and the fact that it is so hard for a foreigner to find work there. Any helpful hints on the latter would be great.
BTW….. the new layout for the blog is outstanding.
Shawn
I am glad to hear that, Shawn! Hopefully you will somehow be able to get past these obstacles. I will do some research on jobs for foreigners, but it’s indeed not easy as far as I know too. Also glad that you like the new layout of the blog!
Another very good article. I would challenge the 99% quite honestly in Romania & say it was more like 20%, at most 30%. I’ve been lucky mostly to stay in that zone but I know 3 of the wrong type to every one of the right type.
However, here is one of the most amusing & most accurate guides to women available today. Universal, not restricted to Romania. Very very true as well as ingeniously funny.
Thank you! Maybe you’ve been terribly unlucky, or maybe I was very lucky :)) We still need some more opinions on this to find the right percentage of non-scamming ladies in Romania 🙂
Would just like to add, watch out for the video chat hostesses. I recently fell for one and then she started asking for gifts/money. I sent her quite a bit asking her to quit being a camgirl and to come live with me where I could provide a more fulfilling life for her. Once she realized I wasn’t going to be sending anymore because I confronted her about it, all of a sudden the relationship changed and we broke up… watch out for those gold diggers/ pro daters!
also, I found out she lied about everything. Said she was single, but she actually had a child and a boyfriend/husband. Half the time I was on skype talking to her I was actually talking to her boyfriend. Turns out she was a paid girl giving me the ‘girlfriend’ experience. She is currently on vacation with another one of her ‘boyfriends.’ be careful folks! Always meet in person before sending money any financial assistance. I should have known better but now I know!
Happens everywhere and not just in Romania. I met my Romanian wife over internet and sent money. I then got on a plane to go meet and we are currently married and i am planning to retire to Romania. Like anything be careful and smart but amazing and bad things can happen in life. The Romanian woman like all woman are awesome. Just saying..
Funny that you need a long article to warn foreigners about Romanian girls scam while pretending that 99% off Romanian girls have no interest in your money. That seems contradictory and from personal experience not true. It’s not true anywhere in the world but Romania is one of the countries where honey traps are the most common. That said, with a little common sense, you can avoid them.
I also don’t think it’s useful to confuse scammers with girls who persuade you to spend money on them. Not only is that not the same behaviour, the result is different for the guy. I would divide girls who are interested in your money in 3 categories:
1- Scammers are people who will try to extort money by lying to you. The goal is steal money from you, not having a good time on a rich guy’s dime. This type of thing is generally illegal. It’s not illegal to convince a boyfriend to spend money on you. The victim of a female scammer is always emotionally devastated. Not true for the guy who showers his girl with expensive gifts and meals. And all things considered, there are relatively few girls like that (less than 1% of girls in their 20s and you can generally spot them easily).
2- Much more common (perhaps 10% of the population of hot babes) are the girls who use guys as a convenience. Free meals at the restaurant, free shoes and handbags, perhaps help with their rent or anything else, they can be very persuasive. Maybe some people think this is bad behaviour but it is merely opportunistic. Guys are not forced to spend any money and you often get a treat out of these women in the shape of some pretty unforgettable nights! The more you give them, the more they give you! Now if you’re well off, and as a foreign man in Romania, you’re likely to be, spending 100 euros on a gift or an evening out is not a lot of money. If you’re rich, 100 euros is peanuts to you. But having a 25 years old beauty who’s 10 or 20 years younger than you in your bed is priceless! So really, who is using who is this case?
3- Girls who just like their boyfriend to have money. I hate to break it to you but that’s probably half of all good looking young women. For them, wealth is hot and a form of social status (and women in general look for that in a man). It’s also a marker of qualities such as competence, intelligence and confidence. Most of these girls will make no secret of it: they want winners, full stop. They want you to spend money on them because they feel they are worth it and being around a successful man gives them social validation. And usually when they have you, they wanna keep you (especially Romanian girls who are very possessive).
Regarding scammers, what’s kind of sad is that rich guys are aware of most of the tricks scammers will use. We’ve seen it all before and I’ve been lucky enough to only have experienced the girl who uses you as a convenience (and ore often than not got hot nights in return so all good in my opinion). But the real scammers, we don’t really fall for it. The result is that they will be more successful with guys who aren’t rich and are unaware. It’s the weak who end up victims, not the strong (who, at least, could afford it and it wouldn’t be a tragedy). That’s the sad things about it, the victims are the one who can least afford to fall prey to this.
Finally, there is another category of girls looking at your money that I haven’t mentioned: the young single mom. Some of them are hot but they are in a really tough spot financially. It’s hard to support yourself and a child on a small income and very little from the state. If they somehow meet you and you have a bunch of money, you are like some kind of miracle coming down from the heavens. Sometimes, their finances has been so tight for so long that they even forgot what real luxury was (if they ever experienced it in the first place). They don’t party, they neither have the time nor the money for that. They tend to be subtle about it but they really, really want you in their lives so you can rescue them from their misery.
I had the pleasure of having a fling with one when I was living in Bucharest (and I’m still in contact with her) and I could tell she wasn’t used to the good times. Just going to a restaurant in Lipscani was unusual to her. She fell pregnant a few years back and her man dumped her. Classy guy! She wasn’t the model type party girl, more like the impossibly cute “girl next door” and took good care of her appearance. She told me she had not had a BF ever since. She was working as a receptionist in a hotel (earning little money) and then needed to do the single mom thing. She had little free time and couldn’t go out of her apartment in the evening very often. She had to ask for her mum to take care of her son when we were out on a date or she was overnight at my place. God she was pleasant to be with! Despite her difficult life, she always had the cutest smile on her face.
Obviously, for an unattached guy, a cash-strapped single mom with no time isn’t exactly the most appealing choice of intimate partner, especially given the other options that exist in Bucharest. These girls come with a lot of baggage and plenty of sad stories. After a few weeks of fun, I realised that the step dad role wasn’t going to be my thing so I ended the relationship but we are still on speaking terms online. I gave her a thousand euros and I occasionally send her some cash via PayPal so she can have a more comfortable life.
All this to say that a girl could be interested in your money for all sorts of reasons, some good, others not so good.
Hey Digital Nomad,
I really loved reading your answer! Thanks for taking your time to write it. It seems that you know things much better than I do as a happily married guy and I am happy that you decided to share your stories. I think that everything you said is unfortunately true. It does sound like the description of today’s society though, so I wonder if it’s just in Romania or other places as well 🙂 Either way, good read!
Hello met a Romanian woman while vacationing in Dubai we hit it off and since returning back to US, we have been texting daily just applied for her visa, any words of caution? She has not hit me up for money at all although she seems to be reluctant to travel here without her GF tagging along. Your thoughts?
She could do this just to feel secure: having somebody she knows close to her reduces the risks of something bad happening to her, in my opinion. If you were just vacationing there, you were probably together for just a short period of time, so I would say it’s not strange for her to still be a bit cautious. Hope everything goes well!
Here is the latest update, she just hit me up for $2k asking me for money stating she is desperate and has no one else to ask except me. I politely told her no thank you! I am unable to offer help at this time. Glad i came here read all the post, this type of scamming seems common with these woman. Guys anyone out there BEWARE of them.
I am really sorry to hear that this happened. But at least you were prepared and didn’t fall for it.