If you’re a foreigner, expat, or just curious, and you find yourself drawn to a Romanian man and wonder what makes them tick, this guide is for you.
I will try to be as objective as possible and base my guide on facts, as well as a few warnings that could save you some heartbreak. To make things even better, I am mixing all this with insight from my wife (who graciously agreed to be brutally honest about Romanian men, including myself).
I wrote about women in Romania a while ago, so if you want to see what you’re up against (or again, just curious), make sure to read that article as well. Now let’s learn everything about dating Romanian men!
Characteristics of a Romanian man
I know, you can’t fit all Romanian men into one box. Just like anywhere else, there are various types here: saints, douchebags, sweethearts, players, gentlemen, and everything in between. But if you look closely, some patterns start showing up.
Generally, Romanian men are simple. Not in a bad way, but in a way that means they have a few strong characteristics and beliefs that they wholeheartedly follow and nothing else.
They are usually loyal to their core values and – especially outside the big cities – carry a strong sense of “how things should be.” You’ll find many still believing in traditional gender roles: the man works and brings home the money, the woman handles the home.
But there’s a twist: women here are encouraged to work as well, but also expected to make dinner and do the laundry when they get home.
Of course, this is a horrible generalization and fortunately not all Romanians are like this, but when you ask me to describe a Romanian man, these are the first thoughts that come to mind.
But before you write them all off, remember: many Romanian men are genuinely modern partners, open-minded and nice, happy to share chores and support your career, and ready to commit if you give them the right nudge: especially those under 40, from big cities, and/or who’ve traveled abroad.
Need some help? If you want to know what makes Romanian men truly commit, this is the guide you MUST read. It shares the one hidden trigger that makes Romanian men crave a real, lasting relationship – and learn how to use it to win his heart for good.
Are Romanian men bad?
Fortunately, no. While there are bad seeds everywhere, we shouldn’t generalize and consider all Romanians bad. We have a stigma – there are many stereotypes about Romanians, and it seems that the rest of Europe dislikes us, but we are not all bad.
Sure, we might need a bit more time before all the old, misogynistic ways are gone, but things are much better now (and improving quickly). So not all Romanian men are bad. Some are. Which brings us to this important subtopic:
Red flags and things to watch out for
While again this is a generalization, I have a quick little test for them: Do they blast manele music loudly from their speaker, call you “princess, jewel, my life, my soul” or anything like that? Run away from them, because they’re no good!
This behavior (and the music itself) is tied to more controlling or even toxic behaviors. Of course, there are exceptions: it’s not a science, but it’s a shortcut that could save you many headaches.
This doesn’t mean every manele fan is a problem. But if you notice him ticking these boxes (quick to jealousy, talking down to women, bragging, heavy drinking), you should slow down a bit and reconsider your relationship.
Fortunately, these do come up relatively soon after meeting him and starting to date, so there shouldn’t be too many surprises as time goes by.
What Romanian Men Look Like
Few people know that Romanians are very interesting, mixing Latin roots with Slavic influences, which pack quite a punch (after all, we’ve spent almost 2,000 years being influenced by our geographical neighbors).
So, while you might expect to find here “Latin lovers,” prepare to see men who have more in common, physically at least, with their Serbian or Russian neighbors than Italians or Spaniards (although we still have that Latin fire burning inside our souls!).
So, what is the typical look here? Medium height (average height here is around 178 cm or 5’10”), a sturdy build, sharp features, brown or black hair, and dark eyes are very common.
Of course, you’ll see every type here, from tall and blond to shorter and stockier.
But no matter what Mother Nature gave them, you will see that most Romanian men put a lot of effort into looking their best. Younger guys are quick to hit the gym, care about their style, and won’t think twice about regular barbershop visits.
The same goes for clothing (even though we do have a soft spot for Adidas sportswear). So if you’re after a partner who cares about his appearance, no matter his age, you’ll have plenty of options.
What’s it like dating a Romanian man?
In most cases, Romanian men do their best to be great partners. They are more old school, the “let me open the door for you” type, the “I’ll pay for the bill” type, the ones that give you their jacket when you’re cold, and give you small gifts to show you that they care. Chivalry is not dead here.
Those who don’t look for a long-term relationship are usually more direct, even sloppy: there are, after all, so many ways nowadays to find a partner for a fling. If he invites you almost instantly to his home and you want a long-term relationship, it might be best to move on.
But those who are looking for more long term commitment are usually dedicated to making things right, even though that “man of the house” mentality can get annoying sometimes.
Plus, prepare for some jealousy from them – at least until they build up that much-needed trust. Some of it is just protectiveness, but too much can cross into red flag territory (think: monitoring your phone, disliking your guy friends, or straight-up forbidding you to see them, or asking where you are constantly). If it doesn’t fade with trust, it’s a problem you should not ignore.
But there’s a flip side, too: a serious Romanian boyfriend is usually all-in. He’ll want to introduce you to his family and friends, he’ll talk about the future, and plan for kids – sometimes sooner than you expect. He’ll be proud of your accomplishments and will fight for the relationship.
Speaking of which, expect most of them to be ready to make the first move, but at the same time, don’t hold off: give him the signs that you’re interested or even make the first move yourself – it’s usually appreciated and enjoyed.
Finally, keep in mind that Romanian men are known for a dry, sometimes dark sense of humor. If he teases you, especially in public, it’s usually a sign he likes you, not a reason to be offended. Banter is part of flirting here… but, of course, if it’s something you dislike, don’t hesitate to talk to him about it.
The “Mama’s Boy” Effect
Romanians say: “Nobody cooks as well as my mother does”. And many men here truly believe it. As a result, don’t be surprised if his mom is a regular topic in your conversations, including comparisons between you and her. You will probably have to deal with the constant pressure of living up to her standards (and moms themselves judge, in general… but this is another topic).
This makes sense, though, as family is still everything in Romania, with mothers playing the starring role in their sons’ lives. This can result inanything from unsolicited advice about your relationship to getting compared to “how Mom does things.”
But if you do end up meeting his family, take it as a sign that he’s truly serious about you. Romanian men rarely introduce a woman to their parents unless they see a future together. But be prepared for that extra scrutiny from his mother.
On the bright side, close family ties also mean you’ll be treated as part of the family once you’re accepted.
Cultural Traditions, Religion, and Everyday Life
Romania is predominantly Orthodox Christian, but most young people don’t make religion a big part of their dating life (or general life).
Still, family holidays, baptisms, and other traditional events are important. You will see that people here celebrate their name day like an anniversary, and holiday dinners are special. So if you’re invited, take it as a big deal.
And keep in mind that families usually expect respect for their traditions, even if your boyfriend is relaxed about them. Remember the topic above about the mother always watching and judging – and not hesitating to tell him what she thinks about you!
Social life generally revolves around small gatherings, food, and plenty of jokes – Romanian humor is a national treasure, and if you can laugh at yourself, you’ll fit in perfectly.
If you want to learn more about these special events and how to prepare for them, I recommend reading my previous articles: weddings in Romania, a baby’s baptism, and, of course, learn everything about Romanian culture here.
A final con
The biggest problem with Romanian men, in my opinion, is the lack of education. Uneducated people usually have no will to evolve, to get better, to improve, and they are stuck under a certain threshold that can make a long-term relationship with them a challenge.
Romanian men are usually stubborn and can rarely be convinced that there’s another way besides their way, and unfortunately, they’re not always right. They do their best, but whenever there’s no dialogue and decisions are not at least discussed before being made, things can turn bad.
It’s not something that they do on purpose just to make you feel bad, nor a proof of the fact that they don’t trust you – it’s just the way they are. Or many of them, at least.
My Final Word: Expect Variety, Demand Respect
Just like everywhere, Romanian men come in every possible flavor. Some are incredible partners – loyal, funny, hard-working, caring, and 100% dedicated to the relationship. Others… not so much.
While this article seems to focus a bit more on the negatives and the red flags, the truth is that Romanian men are, generally speaking, good people and can become amazing partners.
It also depends on where you’re looking for your Romanian man (or where you find them): if you do your “search” in a club or while swiping on Tinder, chances are you will find men who are more shallow and not interested in longer term relationships.
It all depends on what you’re looking for, actually. But the truth is that whatever you’re searching you can find them!
Be open, but keep your standards high. If something feels off, it’s best to trust your gut. And if you find a Romanian man who values you, respects you, and is willing to meet you halfway, you just might have found one of the best partners you could wish for.
Now, switching over to you. What do you think about men in Romania? Were you lucky to find one of the good guys, or were the experiences you had not that great?
Having lived in Romania for over 4 decades, I am here to tell you everything about this beautiful country. I hold a bachelor’s degree in Journalism, I love traveling and I’ve been writing about Romania since 2013. Currently living in Constanta.
Romanian men sound like quite like macho, metrosexual men. I would have a hard time with the whole macho stuff, even though they do share that with Spanish, and Italian men to some extent. It’s kind of interesting how younger men are almost as interested, if not obsessed with clothing and makeup as much as women. That l find a bit weird, but l suppose all the advertising eventually has an effect with its constant bombardment. Swearing, drunk… that would suck.
I fortunately am at least a generation behind the obsessions for clothing and makeup and I don’t regret a thing, haha. The biggest problem in my opinion (I wanted to keep that for myself and from the article since it wasn’t “mine” – but now that I have the chance to say it I will)… so as I was saying, the biggest problem in my opinion is that this obsession for looks is a bad thing because it replaces the obsession for learning and personal development. We end up having a bunch of pretty to look at sculptures… but empty on the inside.
I’m Southamerican raised in one of the Nordic countries and I dated a Romanian man for 1 year. This was my experience:
– very sweet and loving but also extremely vain (had 3 times my warderobe and shoes… and I’m a woman!)
– Oh my God so stingy! (the type to go complain at Lidl if he did not receive 2 EUR discount) and hiding cash in secret accounts (but demanding I share absolutely everything with him)
– would only clean after receiving several reminders (and resent you forever because he had to hoover or do the dishes)
He had… education. A nice sounding degree from some Romanian University but general knowledge was at a very low level.
I miss him, he was in a way very sweet but too much of a “golddigger” so ended up killing my love for him (I asked him to leave, his ego never recovered from that) 😉
Married to a Romanian man for 3 years (I’m American) and his mother absolutely has this view of a role of a wife, works then feeds her husband, cleans the house, deals with an alcoholic abusive husband and that keeps him “happy” until the next time there’s domestic abuse.
Thankfully my husband is neither of those but he absolutely has expectations of my role in the home and as I work more than him, I don’t see it working out as much anymore. He also leans to narcissistic tendencies. We are pregnant with our first, and will be our only child. I will be leaving to never touch another Romanian in my life.
I would say that I found that perfect Romanian guy, he is very thoughtful, sweet, caring, trustworthy, genuine and kind. He is very understanding and open minded. He tends to forget things like taking out the trash but he never forgets to bring me something whenever he comes home from work and take note, he does that everyday. He also is very funny in fact he made laugh the second we met, up until now.
Cici: Sounds like you found a gem. Happy for you. I’m searching for one like that too ☺️ Hope you’re still together!
My experience: his broken english…i was repeating back to him for clarification ..his response: No You Dont Know Anything this is what im trying to tell you. …Fook that shi..t ! im 62 ive never had an american man talk to me this way. Next incident: He said i sent you a text…i said No you were supposed to email me. He Responded: i SAID i sent you email & text Can You Not Hear ? Are You Deaf? . .only a stupid imbecile ignorant man talks this way to a woman… 🔴 i will NEVER date a Foreigner ever. American men are the nicest but make sure they dont drink and they seek God.
Super charming and as soon as you become comfortable the true colors start to shine. Mine was a total charmer for the first half of our relationship then became madly angry out of nowhere.
To this day we are still together hanging on by a thread and he still manages to convince me the way he treats me is not meant and that he will never be like that again and when this wear off it’s the same old behavior. It’s not worth it to me.
Although this is specifically about Romanian men I would touch off of the importance of family too, if they have a broken family it can really affect how he acts such as a non attentive father as I believe not having a good father figure can leave an empty slate for guys to do with what they wish.
Romanian men can be super cocky and have a way of charming you to get away with it. They can be everything you want and everything you don’t want all in the same day! 110% would not invest myself in the drama, Go for your own culture or a culture a like because where I am from the men here would be appalled at Romanian men’s behavior.
American men act this same way… I just got out of a relationship from a French/Creole man from Reunion. He’s was cocky and egotistical and was cheating on me, which he still has no idea that I know about. It doesn’t make a difference what culture or where they are from. Everywhere has its share bad men and good men.
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I dated a couple of Romanians and I can say they are great . They both liked to show thier masculinity and like a woman to sit back and let them show off their manly care for you. One secretly had a wife back home though which I believe a lot of them do. But he surly gave the Latin passionate treatment.
And both cooked and cleaned and were very charming. the other very skill full and decorated my whole house in his spare time from work. He was wild and exciting and both were funny and I was never bored. but again difficult with commitment. For a fun time they’re great . One was passionate intimately the other not so but great at showing care like getting me gifts. I love Romanian men. but not sure about long term with them.
I am currently dating a Romanian man, who’s name is ironically Calin. I found out through his daughter that he is still married to her mom. I told him I would not date him anymore unless he got a divorce; so he said he started his divorce and that it will be final this year 2021. Reading your comment gave me heartache, because I am in doubt. Do you know how to make sure that he REALLY is divorced from his ex-wife in Romania? I feel like I am being played….
Broken-hearted.
As long as they are not living together and the spark is gone between them, the marriage certificate is nothing but a piece of paper. I know a few people who are split, each living their own lives and still officially married. It’s easier for managing the child (if they’re not over 18) and many other, mostly tax-related problems and issues. As long as he’s there for you and no longer living with the former wife, you shouldn’t let a piece of paper stand in your way.
I am married to a Romanian man 13 years younger than me. He is the loveliest man I have ever met. He is a devoted Catholic, always thinks about others before himself. Always looks after me, giving me his coat when I’m cold. When it was my birthday last year, he gave me a cactus and a fire tv stick which he has uploaded the app I used. So caring and so thoughtful. Unfortunately he had leukaemia and passed away three weeks after we got married. I treasure all these memories with him. I miss and love him so much.
I work for a Romanian. He is very passionate about his work but also usually in a hurry. Very family oriented and says I should date European men because they have morals and values and their woman are their Queens unlike American boys. He can get upset and will sometimes show it but he does apologize afterwards. He is a good man and not narrow minded, extremely driven and caring.
I was in a relationship with Romanian. He was very clever, caring, emotional, loving, passionate and open minded. Unfortunately he wasnt very emotionally balanced. Ups and downs. He has left and since than I’m very devastated and miserable. He was love of my life. I would like to meet another Romanian, I completely lost interest in men from my country….
I have been in contact with two Romanian guys via dating apps and a lot of what was said seems to be true from what I have experienced. One was a model (extremely arrogant) probably because he is good looking and not because he is Romanian? But he blocked me because I did not want to meet him at his house for the first date. He was probably planning to “skip the pleasantries and then move on”.
The other one was similar but a lot of fun to chat with. When we finally met in person he was like Prince Charming. Opening car doors, taking me out to dinner “let me open the door for you” , “I’ll pay for the bill” type. But at the end of the date he was pushing/ manipulating me into his bed. After the date I get a long romantic text. When I told him I liked him but I want to take things slow. He said he understands but then ghosted me. He will literally read my text and not reply.
Although he was upper class and half Western Euro, I as a Latina found him very machista. He said he is very visual and thinks a woman should look feminine at all costs. And he said he’d probably immigrate to Latin America at the end of 2022 and marry a woman 20 years his junior. He will turn 40 in June. Oh so many red flags.. But I can see the appeal Romanian men are overall good looking, well dressed and can be very charming. If only I could meet a good one.
I met a Romania guy on a dating site. I am from Africa and he claims to be in UK, I like him for he’s funny, sometimes he encourages me, but he’s very hot tempered. He makes a mountain out of moles hill.
My teenage son called him by his name while on a call,
He called me names, claiming my son has disrespected him.
He asked me for my FB password after giving him he changed the password and locked my accounts claiming that he don’t want any guy friend requesting me.
Am confused of his so called love. always giving orders.
No matter where such a person is from, it’s what I would call away a toxic relation. Just imagine spending your whole life around a person like this…
I’ve lived with 2 Romanians so have a good idea of their personality. They are quite friendly and caring but also quite stubborn and like to get their own way. As I was the only girl I was treated like a princess where they would cook me food and cleaned.
They do get insulted if you leave food behind and I have to assure them I’m full. They insist on sharing everything as if we’re family members which can get annoying as sharing is a choice and I work for everything I have but Romanians are quite cheap.
I would share good bottles of wine with them as they cooked. One would try take advantage of my kindness by asking me for money or asking me to pay for him while out which comes off as rude to me but like I said they are cheap.
This guy had 3 bank accounts and despite being 12 years older than me, he would say he had no money but would spend it all on cigarettes, drugs and alcohol or say he sent it home to Romania as his mom “lost her pension to communism” which the other Romanian suggested was a lie.
One was very needy and hyper, always had a need to talk to people which meant I had less personal space. He wanted to spend all of his spare time with me or would text me all the time, after a while I decided to ignore him and focus on myself as it was getting too much for me and he got angry and blocked my number.
Romanians speak very loudly and you can hardly get a word in as they interrupt mid sentence and then speak on longer than needed, it’s usually about them. The 2 Romanians would speak Romanian when I walked into the room and sometimes ignore me which felt rude as I’m from an English speaking country.
One would drink and smoke a lot and would stay awake till 6am listening to music or calling friends in Romania in the early hours of the morning forgetting he had 2 housemates who needed sleep. The other one harassed me as he was quite insulted I did not fancy him back. He had some nice traits but his arrogance and creepy advances towards me made me dislike him.
Overall I can say they are quite friendly, charming and attentive but romantically I would not see a future with them.
7 years ago, I got a call at work from a Romanian guy, I can’t really explain it, but I instantly fell in love with him, our situations were complicated as we both were involved in relations, but for some reason, things are not moving forward between us, the worst part was the fact that last year he married the girl he’s been dating since I got to know him, I can’t explain the pain I had to go through and the mini strokes I have experienced at just 30 years old, he tried to convince me that he just had to, and that he can’t throw her away after all these years and be seen as he was just using her, and that mariage is gonna be considered as an achievement for her and her family when they get divorced, and that there was so much pressure on him from both families. I had to take it, not only because I love him, but also because I know how caring and thoughtful he is, even with her, which he doesn’t try to hide from me. Call me dumb, call me stupid, call me anything you want, I’m just not able to stay away from him no matter how much I tried.
One more thing, we only met once in 7 years, that’s on a side note.
Apart from that, he’s super stubborn, and he cares about money in a concerning way, he works like a slave as well, something that I won’t be able to cope with when we will be living together.
Someone said they’re cheap, I can relate to this.
They always think they’re right, absolutely, they also always think they’re being deep and can see things in different perspectives that other people don’t see, while in fact it’s just something super shallow that an average human should realize.
Feel free to comment and say your opinion, I won’t get offended.
My advice as a Romanian man that currently lives in Western Europe, is to forget about him and look for something else.
Usually (think at the bell curve) the Romanian men that go to work in the Western Europe perceive the women over there as an easy prey, because we see you more open minded and kind. In general the Romanian women know very well who we really are, they already have immunity and their attitude towards us it is a bit reluctant, and so we cannot sell them the same bulls***.
Speaking to a foreign woman in her language, a Romanian man can dare to tell her whatever he wants because a foreign language will never evoke an emotional reaction to him. No matter how good he speaks it. The average Romanian guy is quite misogynistic (although he may hide it).
I also did date a Romanian guy before and although I do not like to generalise, I hope this helps another woman.
I did not know much about Romanian men and I began to do some research only after we ended things. When we first met, he was caring, loving, offered to give me his coat, always paid, was a gentleman etc.
But it doesn’t take long for the cracks to begin to show. He was selfish, it was always about him. He was incredibly cheap and never wanted to take me on proper dates (I had to force it out of him). He was never willing to compromise. He spoke to me in a very condescending tone and would get angry whenever I said something that went against what he wanted.
He would expect me to behave a certain way and would go as far as calling me childish if I didn’t. He would speak over me and only apologized once in our 9 months of on and off. He liked to drink and smoke, always had money for drinks and his cigs, but taking me on a real date was an issue.
I also experienced this “Macho” behavior. It was one of the most toxic relationships I ever had. My emotions were gaslighted and I hope you get to know these type of men better next time before trusting what you see on the surface.
Sounds so similar to the condescension from the man I dated. It was only after I ended things that ALL of my friends and family who met him told me they not only noticed he was condescending to me, but that he had been rude to them too!
He mostly talked about work, money, working out, and what he would eat. He was emotionally unavailable and manipulative. Gaslighting with him for sure too.
He craved to control me and would threaten to break up with me constantly behind closed doors over such small things, then act like he’s in love with me in front of anyone else. I found him extremely fake and narcissistic.
He expected to marry me and seemed genuinely dumbfounded when I left him. He had told me when he was planning to propose and it was a wake up call to get out.
Glad you got out too! These types need a (very good) therapist, not a relationship.
I got a Romania guy 4 days ago from Facebook.. he calls me all sweet names and says he loves me and wants to come to uganda to visit me…its not evn aweek knowing each other. ……he told me his wife passed on so he stays with his daughter in Uk so tomorrow is his daughter’s birthday and he asked me what he could buy for me that is gona make me as he does shopping for his daughter…..and he said he gona put some money for me in the gift so I can strt working on my visa …could he be lying or am just confused 😕
Well, it’s very easy to find out – if there’s a gift and extra money in it, he’s probably not lying 🙂
Dated a Romanian man who emigrated to the USA as a teen. He was misogynistic in a way American men aren’t – he said I won’t be his priority and my feelings don’t matter “until” I marry him. Until then, his mom is his number 1 priority and woman.
Now in America this crosses several very dysfunctional lines.
1) Any person in a relationship is a priority and making it conditional on getting married is manipulative.
2) Any person’s feelings matter – period – but especially in a relationship. Manipulative.
3) Drawing a comparison and creating competition between a partner and mother is manipulative and in America putting your mother in the same category as your girlfriend, with whom you have an intimate relationship, starts to sound bad. He did bow down to his mother’s every wish for money, to stay with him (and I wasn’t allowed to see him for 5 weeks while she was there), to move her after her several divorces/unstable jobs. She is very unstable and demanding of him as if he’s her husband. But he’d fall for it and say “I choose her over you” and “her feelings matter more to me than my own.” yikes!!! So creepy.
Needless to say – these viewpoints were beyond disturbing and disrespectful so I ended things before he could propose. I have read Romanian men are close to their mothers, but this seemed too inappropriate with no boundaries. Made me question how much abuse he’d been through that he wasn’t telling me (and he had told me quite a bit).
I wonder how much of this is a cultural difference and how much is his personality/unhealthy family dynamics.
I have met the Romanian douche bag that’s true but I’m currently in a relationship with a Romanian man. Who showers, looks good, is a gentleman opens doors etc. He likes to pay for everything. I offer all the time and he refuses. I have whipped my card out before in situations and paid the bill and on a regular basis he buys me flowers, chocolates and perfumes.
I find your article interesting as it has taken him time to trust me and he always thinks he’s right and has done nothing wrong! Not being from Romania I thought it was a trait in him and I’ll be honest I have considered ending it as much as I love him and it would break my heart but hearing it’s natural in Romanian men it’s good to know that they do not like to admit they’re wrong. But will this be an issue in the future? I do not know.
He will do anything for me and always tries to make me happy. I felt like you just described my partner. I have not had the pressure from him on getting married and having kids. Obviously we have spoke about it in the sense do we want these things but that’s it. I have met the douche bags like I say. Stay away from them, they’re very complicated men. I just wanted to share and say great article 🙂
Thank you! Great to hear that you’re having a positive experience.
Am a Belizean I have a Romanian Man. we are going out over a year now. he is a great person. and very Jealous person too
dump him
theres men out there that have too much motivation to CARE ABOUT YOU AND WHATS IMPORTANT TO YOU…Dont settle for garbage or mediocre . . he sounds rude
I have a Romanian man I met on an online dating app. We have been talking for 5 months now. One thing I noticed is that he is very empathic, nice and caring. He calls me all the sweet names in the world. He has lots of clothes and pairs of shoes than me as a woman. The part I dislike about him is he is never listens when I bring up a suggestion, he feels everything he says is nothing but the best and it breaks my heart.
As a Romanian man I can say that this article is pretty good, pretty balanced. There are some bad men (in a sense that don’t fit your needs), but you can find also some good Romanian men as well. I’m single, but I don’t see myself in a relationship with a foreign woman.
I don’t imagine myself talking with my woman in another language than Romanian. I love my country and my language very very much! I believe some of the foreign women can be better and sweeter than the Romanian women.
But I want to meet a Romanian woman to love and make her happy. For me it’s important to share both, me and her, the same belief in God. I have a degree in Theology and now I follow a master. This year is the last one.
P.S. Sorry for my English, in high school and in University I learned just French, even so I used more English than French to speak and write. Google translate helped me correct some mistakes.
Hi,
I have a 3 years relationship with a Romanian man (I’m Italian, 38 years and he is 40). We met in 2022 and he has always been very gentleman, handsome, clever and ambitious.
He talked about kids, his family, to get married, to buy an house together etc.
After the first 6 months I started to see that he was still adding random girls on socials, posting pictures about himself alone showing his body, and then in his “home” of Facebook there were more women than real close friends.
This behavior made me doubt about him many times, I tried to leave him and he was begging me to forgive him and that he would change.
Despite his age, I found him immature, his friends were always having parties, getting drunk, with loud music, once he proposed me to go to a rave.
Ok guys, when I was 20s I had my experiences, but at nearly 40 and planning a family I was imagining his behaviors differently. I am not a party girl, no drinking (I’m not saying this to judge others but just to understand that he knew it already and agreed), I like to travel, going for excursions, events, theatre, museums, history, books, arts. Things that with him are not possible because he only likes loud music and having fun with friends like barbecues in the garden only. I remember that, because we were always busy at work we were planning a couple trip abroad and he wanted to add his friend. Unbelievable.
In conclusion, he bought the house (not putting me in the mortgage) he changed a bit but he always wanted to be adored, talking about money, job, career, hear that he is handsome, get compliments, he gives confidence to anybody especially ladies, selfish and if you say something different from what he said he gets arrogant and answers in a rude way.
He asked me to go to live together but he has a lot of clothes and shoes not much space for me and putting the speakers ready for his loud music.
It’s not my type, despite I love his family and I loved him so much planning a family together, he is too much narcissistic and I had to take a decision to don’t go further.
Everyone is different but probably a Balkan lady is better for him.
I don’t have any preference as long as the man is not narcissistic, not selfish, not craving for ladies like he never seen one before, I just would like a devoted partner, mature with common sense.
Thanks for sharing your experience, Iris. I am sorry to hear that you drew the short stick here, though…