Guide to Men in Romania: What Are They Like in a Relationship?

Today, we’re going to talk about the characteristics of a Romanian man and what to expect from a relationship with a man in Romania. And not every man, but a Romanian, of course!

Since I am a man and I might be biased, I actually asked my wife to honestly describe the situation based on her own experience with Romanian men, as well as the discussions she had with her friends. I am only translating her words with no comments of my own, to keep things as objective as possible.

I personally wrote about women in Romania a while ago – and especially how to separate the “real deal” from the scammers and I encourage you to read that article again to see what you’re up against.

With these in mind, let’s get straight to business and see what it’s like to date a Romanian man and what to expect from one!

Characteristics of Romanian men

It’s very difficult to put them all in the same bucket, as there are various types of men in Romania, sometimes with completely different traits: some better than others, some ticking all the boxes in the “douchebag” category, some being the perfect gentleman.

But if you were to put a stamp on them, I would say that Romanian men are usually simple people – not in a bad way, but from the fact that they have a few strong characteristics that they wholeheartedly follow and nothing else.

Romanian men are generally the type that believe that men and women are not created equal, that men should do some things that women don’t – and vice-versa. Men don’t cook, men don’t clean the house, men don’t wash the dishes, just like women can’t change a lightbulb, paint the walls or hammer a nail.

All these, while, paradoxically, they don’t expect women to stay at home. No, they can surely work to provide for the family.

The difference? When Romanian men return home from work, they lie on the couch to watch TV or play a game or drink a beer, while the woman (also just back from work) prepares dinner and washes his clothes.

Of course, this is a horrible generalization and fortunately not all Romanians are like this, but when you ask me to describe a Romanian man, these are the first thoughts that come to mind.

Are Romanian men that bad?

Fortunately, no. The younger generations have a more modern mentality and the younger they are, the better things are, in general.

Sure, there might be a few generations before the old ways, the misogynistic ways are completely gone, but things are better and changing for the best. So Romanian men are not bad. Some are.

I would go as far as saying that you should first look at the music they are listening. Do they blast manele music loudly from their speaker, call you “princess, jewel, my life, my soul” or anything like that? Run away from them, because they’re no good!

They don’t have to listen to classical music, though. But there is a thing about the people who enjoy Romania’s controversial genre: the moral values that they have are usually what most people – your average woman, for example – would stay away from.

They usually come hand in hand with domestic violence, alcohol consumption, lower education.

Sure, they might probably be perfect for a night or two, but a long term relationship would probably turn out badly. Emotionally and physically draining.

The looks of a Romanian man

Most people don’t know that Romanians are an interesting kind of people. Despite the geographical location of the country, Romanians have latin roots, so you can expect to find here the passion and the appeal of your Italian or Spanish man.

However, you should also remember that, despite the latin roots, there have been almost two thousand years spent under the influence of the nearby people, mainly the Russians.

So when it comes to looks, I would say that most Romanians look more like Russians or Bulgarians and Serbians than your macho Spanish man. But they still have that fire burning!

They’re usually not too tall, nor short, they have they features more cut off than rounded and most of Romanians have brown or black hair with darker colored eyes. They definitely have their charm with them and can easily put you under their spell.

Romanian men are starting to care about their looks and physical condition more and more. Most of the younger people will spend a lot time working out, using creams to keep their skin smooth, shopping for clothes that look good and visiting the barber shop regularly.

While you start seeing more and more of that “dad bod” especially after they pass a certain age (mid 30s, I would say), they still remain in a decent shape and if you’re looking for a partner, you will have no problem finding a gorgeous one, no matter their age.

What it’s like dating a Romanian man?

In most cases, Romanian men do their best to be a great partner. They are more old school, the “let me open the door for you” type, the “I’ll pay for the bill” type, the ones that give you their jacket when you’re cold and give you small gifts to show you that they care.

Those who don’t really look for a long term relationship are usually more direct: with so many easy ways to find a partner, those who are not looking for something serious will sometimes skip the pleasantries and just invite you home, then move on.

If you want to make sure that the Romanian man you’re interested in will be 100% yours and not just a fling, make sure to read this guide. It is the only thing that you really need to read in order to learn all the secrets needed to make him love you and be yours long term.

But those who are looking for more long term commitment, are usually dedicated to making things right, even though that “man of the house” mentality can get annoying sometimes. Plus, prepare for some jealousy from them – at least until they build up that much needed trust.

Romanian men know that they are expected to make the first step and generally will, but they won’t mind if you do it instead, on the contrary, this is something they enjoy. Or at least be a bit more obvious that you’re interested – some don’t get the hint on the first or third try.

But, despite their flaws, they are generally committed to keep you happy and they will usually do their best to make sure that you are well taken care of. They value the concept of family and more often than not you will find men who are looking to start a family and give it their best.

The biggest problem with Romanian men, in my opinion, is the lack of education. People who are uneducated usually have no will to evolve, to get better, to improve and they are stuck under a certain treshold that can make a long term relationship with them a challenge.

Romanian men are usually stubborn and can rarely be convinced that there’s another way that their way and unfortunately they’re not always right. They do their best, but whenever there’s no dialog and decisions are not at least discussed prior to be made, things can turn bad.

It’s not something that they do on purpose just to make you feel bad, nor a proof of the fact that they don’t trust you – it’s just the way they are. Or many of them, at least.

Just like anywhere in the world, there are better people and worse people out there. Stereotypes don’t always work, and human beings have this particularity of being extremely complex.

So I would say that if you were to pick one at random, you have equal chances of finding that douchbag that smells nice but hasn’t taken a shower in days, who’s ready to abuse you when he gets drunk and expects you to live in his shadow; or finding that genuine, perfect guy, who really understands you and does everything they can to keep you happy, really values your opinion and is a great, lifelong partner.

It also depends on where you’re looking for your Romanian man (or where you find them): if you do your “search” in a club or while swiping on Tinder, chances are you will find men who are more shallow and not interested in longer term relationships.

Men you meet at work, at friends’ parties or especially online sites can be better material for long term relationships. It all depends on what you’re looking for, actually. But the truth is that whatever you’re searching you can find them!

Now – switching over to you. What do you think about men in Romania? Were you lucky to find one of the good guys, or the experience(s) you had weren’t that good yet?

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38 thoughts on “Guide to Men in Romania: What Are They Like in a Relationship?”

  1. Romanian men sound like quite like macho, metrosexual men. I would have a hard time with the whole macho stuff, even though they do share that with Spanish, and Italian men to some extent. It’s kind of interesting how younger men are almost as interested, if not obsessed with clothing and makeup as much as women. That l find a bit weird, but l suppose all the advertising eventually has an effect with its constant bombardment. Swearing, drunk… that would suck.

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    • I fortunately am at least a generation behind the obsessions for clothing and makeup and I don’t regret a thing, haha. The biggest problem in my opinion (I wanted to keep that for myself and from the article since it wasn’t “mine” – but now that I have the chance to say it I will)… so as I was saying, the biggest problem in my opinion is that this obsession for looks is a bad thing because it replaces the obsession for learning and personal development. We end up having a bunch of pretty to look at sculptures… but empty on the inside.

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    • I’m Southamerican raised in one of the Nordic countries and I dated a Romanian man for 1 year. This was my experience:
      – very sweet and loving but also extremely vain (had 3 times my warderobe and shoes… and I’m a woman!)
      – Oh my God so stingy! (the type to go complain at Lidl if he did not receive 2 EUR discount) and hiding cash in secret accounts (but demanding I share absolutely everything with him)
      – would only clean after receiving several reminders (and resent you forever because he had to hoover or do the dishes)
      He had… education. A nice sounding degree from some Romanian University but general knowledge was at a very low level.
      I miss him, he was in a way very sweet but too much of a “golddigger” so ended up killing my love for him (I asked him to leave, his ego never recovered from that) 😉

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      • Well he was a little piece of new age shi*! Not all of us are like that, I’m not saying you’re generalizing, and if he was like that he was just another pus*** like most from the new generation are which is the shallow type only focused on their looks more than a woman like you say ,it’s such a pity and a waste of brain matter but you know, it is what it is ,every tree has it’s bad new age apples 🍎!

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  2. A very interesting article from a woman’s perspective. One English note: “How are they like?” sounds very awkward. Better is “What are they like?” “How” already has the sense of “what kind of______” or “in what way…” in it so pairing “how” with the “are like” expression sounds a bit repetitious. Also possible could have been: “How are they?” although this could get confused with asking about the state of their general health. If you are interested, I found a very good grammar discussion about “How?” versus “What….like?” that is far more educational than my explanation. https://english.stackexchange.com/questions/220454/how-vs-what-like. Keep up the interesting articles! I am sure Calin is one of the “great catches” among Romanian men who never shirks housework obligations.

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    • Stuart, thanks for letting me know about this! Now, when I read it again, it sounded awkward but when I wrote the article initially, no alarms were triggered in my brain 🙂 It is difficult to think in a foreign language rather than translate from your own… but I am doing my best and I am always happy to be able to improve and hopefully learn not to make the same mistake again 🙂

      Regarding me taking part in housework obligations… yes, I don’t shy away from those and I also cook from time to time (less often recently, that is true). But I am the one in charge with cleaning the dust and vacuuming and I actually find the entire process of cleaning the house quite relaxing… (not that much so when 5 minutes later you see that your son re-created the mess)

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      • I have the vacuuming, dish washing, take-out-the-trash, rinsing and hanging up the laundry (my wife can only bring herself to throw the clothes and detergent into the machine and press the start button), and driving duties in my family. Yes, I’m virtue signalling… You can delete the first half of my first comment about English grammar if you wish.

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  3. I would say that I found that perfect Romanian guy, he is very thoughtful, sweet, caring, trustworthy, genuine and kind. He is very understanding and open minded. He tends to forget things like taking out the trash but he never forgets to bring me something whenever he comes home from work and take note, he does that everyday. He also is very funny in fact he made laugh the second we met, up until now.

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    • I married a Romanian man.
      Almost 9 years in the relationship is a nightmare the best word to describe.
      Egotistic narcissistic manipulative selfish man. He’s in his mid 30’s now and there’s 0 change.
      Marrying a Romanian man in my opinion is only acceptable if you are prepared to give up your own life in exchange for his.
      As a woman you will become demotivated, worthless bored and extremely tired of his draining needy ways. 0 negotiation, constructive feedback falls on deaf ears.
      He feeds his ego observing your misery. He can do what he pleases you will do as you are told.
      He will stop at NO lengths to get his own way.
      You will never be a priority, loved respected or appreciated. It’s expected your role is that of a mother a grandmother nothing more. Do not dare ask or question him about anything! You live life walking on egg shells waiting for the next drama. I am a strong liberated British woman fighting this man daily. He serves absolutely 0 purpose in my life. Needless to say I don’t envisage continuing much longer. Not even I can continue like this for the sake of my children. We have all had enough of his dictatorship! He wasn’t like this in the beginning they usually never are. If you are looking to provide a rehabilitation center for poorly raised men then marrying a Romanian man is for you.

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      • I had same situation with a Scottish man….get out of it. I used to try to hold it together for the kids…what, exposing them to this is not in their best interests, or yours!!! He won’t like it and will hate you forever, but we only have 1 life!!!

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      • That is not specific to any nationality, my ex was like this and of a different origin + old enough to know better but ended up answering to the law. My longterm beau is Romanian, stubborn yes, set in certain ways but never mistreated me like the previous. Hard working and domesticated but can be difficult which yes gets on my nerves at times. I’m sorry for your experience, it always seems we will never get past it; but somehow we do. The difficult part is hoping they will change and remembering you deserve better. Culture comes into play as we are both of a similar upbringing, food, family and personal values although of different religions and origins… its not perfect at times but nothing worth breaking up over.

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      • In dating a Romanian man, I have come to realize how true this is. He wasn’t like this in the beginning. Two years and a baby later he constantly questions my value to me in a condescending way and tells me I’m a bad mother.

        He won’t commit to marriage and he is stingy with his money although well educated in Romania. He laughs at me demeans me. My Latino American friends and family keep telling me he is too selfish and no good. He doesn’t understand what family is.

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      • I’m not sure I like that everyone is generalizing this type of man as acting this way because he’s Romanian. I’ve now dated 4 American men in the last 7 years who were narcissistic, egotistic, and abusive. I think it depends on the individual’s upbringing and experiences in their lives to make them the way they are. Every culture has men who are terrible human beings and men who are amazing and kind. Again, I don’t think this is fair to generalize Romanian men like this.

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  4. Super charming and as soon as you become comfortable the true colours start to shine. Mine was a total charmer for the first half of our relationship then became madly angry out of nowhere. To this day we are still together hanging on by a thread and he still manages to convince me the way he treats me is not meant and that he will never be like that again and when this wear off it’s the same old behaviour. It’s not worth it to me. Although this is specifically about Romanian men I would touch off of the importance of family too, if they have a broken family it can really affect how he acts such as a non attentive father as I believe not having a good father figure can leave an empty slate for guys to do with what they wish. Romanian men can be super cocky and have a way of charming you to get away with it. They can be everything you want and everything you don’t want all in the same day! 110% would not invest myself in the drama, Go for your own culture or a culture a like because where I am from the men here would be appalled at Romanian men’s behaviour.

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    • American men act this same way… I just got out of a relationship from a French/Creole man from Reunion. He’s was cocky and egotistical and was cheating on me, which he still has no idea that I know about. It doesn’t make a difference what culture or where they are from. Everywhere has its share bad men and good men.

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  5. I am English and I love my
    Romanian man I don’t
    Care about the racists they
    Don’t know what they are missing out on 🤣👍

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  6. I dated a couple of Romanians and I can say they are great . They both liked to show thier masculinity and like a woman to sit back and let them show off their manly care for you. One secretly had a wife back home though which I believe a lot of them do. But he surly gave the Latin passionate treatment. And both cooked and cleaned and were very charming. the other very skill full and decorated my whole house in his spare time from work. He was wild and exciting and both were funny and I was never bored. but again difficult with commitment. For a fun time they’re great . One was passionate intimately the other not so but great at showing care like getting me gifts. I love Romanian men. but not sure about long term with them.

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    • I am currently dating a Romanian man, who’s name is ironically Calin. I found out through his daughter that he is still married to her mom. I told him I would not date him anymore unless he got a divorce; so he said he started his divorce and that it will be final this year 2021. Reading your comment gave me heartache, because I am in doubt. Do you know how to make sure that he REALLY is divorced from his ex-wife in Romania? I feel like I am being played….
      Broken-hearted.

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      • As long as they are not living together and the spark is gone between them, the marriage certificate is nothing but a piece of paper. I know a few people who are split, each living their own lives and still officially married. It’s easier for managing the child (if they’re not over 18) and many other, mostly tax-related problems and issues. As long as he’s there for you and no longer living with the former wife, you shouldn’t let a piece of paper stand in your way.

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  7. I am married to a Romanian man 13 years younger than me. He is the loveliest man I have ever met. He is a devoted Catholic, always thinks about others before himself. Always looks after me, giving me his coat when I’m cold. When it was my birthday last year, he gave me a cactus and a fire tv stick which he has uploaded the app I used. So caring and so thoughtful. Unfortunately he had leukaemia and passed away three weeks after we got married. I treasure all these memories with him. I miss and love him so much.

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  8. I work for a Romanian. He is very passionate about his work but also usually in a hurry. Very family oriented and says I should date European men because they have morals and values and their woman are their Queens unlike American boys. He can get upset and will sometimes show it but he does apologize afterwards. He is a good man and not narrow minded, extremely driven and caring.

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  9. Girl… run. I am leaving a 27 year relationship with a romanian. Good days/bad days. Unfortunately bad days have been outnumbering the good ones more and more.

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  10. “Romanian men are generally the type that believe that men and women are not created equal, that men should do some things that women don’t – and vice-versa.”

    I would gladly wash dishes and do the laundry while my wife (hypothetically) build a deck in the backyward. Can she?

    A few years ago I have built a deck, all by myself, absolutely no help. I dug 12 holes, 3 feet deep, 16 inches large, and poured concrete. Then installed posts, rails, boards, and nail the whole thing. Can you show me a woman able to do the same ?

    “Romanian men are usually stubborn and can rarely be convinced that there’s another way that their way and unfortunately they’re not always right.”

    They are very well aware that there are at least 2 ways to do the same thing ( yours and his) but pretty sure they have very strong arguments for their case.
    10 years ago I have purchased a home. How do you choose a home? A nice place to live and call home? Nope! That only works if you have a family (wife and children who can enjoy life at home). If you go to work from morning to evening and you only come home to sleep you don’t need a fully developed community. You buy a new home that can be sold later at a much greater price. That’s the solution to this situation.
    There are always arguments pros and cons in any situation, I would gladly follow a woman’s lead if she can convince me about the merit of her decisions.

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    • Lol, you sound like my Romanian boyfriend.

      1.- True, he does the dishes without me asking… but then again, we are only on the dating stage, so who knows if it will stay that way.

      2.- He promised me to help me repair things around my home. He said “Don’t waste your money paying someone to do it, I will do it” — 6 months later – It never happened!
      I see this as lying and lack of commitment. So, his words might be beautiful, but he lacks action. I am strongly considering breaking up with him.

      Stubbornness? YES sir! He would quickly dismiss me and not even listen to my reasons for wanting to do something new or different, he only considers his own opinions. Selfish? Macho?

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  11. I was in a relationship with Romanian. He was very clever, caring, emotional, loving, passionate and open minded. Unfortunately he wasnt very emotionally balanced. Ups and downs. He has left and since than I’m very devastated and miserable. He was love of my life. I would like to meet another Romanian, I completely lost interest in men from my country….

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  12. I have been in contact with two Romanian guys via dating apps and a lot of what was said seems to be true from what I have experienced. One was a model (extremely arrogant) probably because he is good looking and not because he is Romanian? But he blocked me because I did not want to meet him at his house for the first date. He was probably planning to “skip the pleasantries and then move on”.

    The other one was similar but a lot of fun to chat with. When we finally met in person he was like Prince Charming. Opening car doors, taking me out to dinner “let me open the door for you” , “I’ll pay for the bill” type. But at the end of the date he was pushing/ manipulating me into his bed. After the date I get a long romantic text. When I told him I liked him but I want to take things slow. He said he understands but then ghosted me. He will literally read my text and not reply.

    Although he was upper class and half Western Euro, I as a Latina found him very machista. He said he is very visual and thinks a woman should look feminine at all costs. And he said he’d probably immigrate to Latin America at the end of 2022 and marry a woman 20 years his senior. He will turn 40 in June. Oh so many red flags.. But I can see the appeal Romanian men are overall good looking, well dressed and can be very charming. If only I could meet a good one.

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  13. I met a Romania guy on a dating site. I am from Africa and he claims to be in UK, I like him for he’s funny, sometimes he encourages me, but he’s very hot tempered. He makes a mountain out of moles hill.
    My teenage son called him by his name while on a call,
    He called me names, claiming my son has disrespected him.
    He asked me for my FB password after giving him he changed the password and locked my accounts claiming that he don’t want any guy friend requesting me.
    Am confused of his so called love. always giving orders.

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  14. I’ve lived with 2 Romanians so have a good idea of their personality. They are quite friendly and caring but also quite stubborn and like to get their own way. As I was the only girl I was treated like a princess where they would cook me food and cleaned.

    They do get insulted if you leave food behind and I have to assure them I’m full. They insist on sharing everything as if we’re family members which can get annoying as sharing is a choice and I work for everything I have but Romanians are quite cheap.

    I would share good bottles of wine with them as they cooked. One would try take advantage of my kindness by asking me for money or asking me to pay for him while out which comes off as rude to me but like I said they are cheap.

    This guy had 3 bank accounts and despite being 12 years older than me, he would say he had no money but would spend it all on cigarettes, drugs and alcohol or say he sent it home to Romania as his mom “lost her pension to communism” which the other Romanian suggested was a lie.

    One was very needy and hyper, always had a need to talk to people which meant I had less personal space. He wanted to spend all of his spare time with me or would text me all the time, after a while I decided to ignore him and focus on myself as it was getting too much for me and he got angry and blocked my number.

    Romanians speak very loudly and you can hardly get a word in as they interrupt mid sentence and then speak on longer than needed, it’s usually about them. The 2 Romanians would speak Romanian when I walked into the room and sometimes ignore me which felt rude as I’m from an English speaking country.

    One would drink and smoke a lot and would stay awake till 6am listening to music or calling friends in Romania in the early hours of the morning forgetting he had 2 housemates who needed sleep. The other one harassed me as he was quite insulted I did not fancy him back. He had some nice traits but his arrogance and creepy advances towards me made me dislike him.

    Overall I can say they are quite friendly, charming and attentive but romantically I would not see a future with them.

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  15. 7 years ago, I got a call at work from a Romanian guy, I can’t really explain it, but I instantly fell in love with him, our situations were complicated as we both were involved in relations, but for some reason, things are not moving forward between us, the worst part was the fact that last year he married the girl he’s been dating since I got to know him, I can’t explain the pain I had to go through and the mini strokes I have experienced at just 30 years old, he tried to convince me that he just had to, and that he can’t throw her away after all these years and be seen as he was just using her, and that mariage is gonna be considered as an achievement for her and her family when they get divorced, and that there was so much pressure on him from both families. I had to take it, not only because I love him, but also because I know how caring and thoughtful he is, even with her, which he doesn’t try to hide from me. Call me dumb, call me stupid, call me anything you want, I’m just not able to stay away from him no matter how much I tried.

    One more thing, we only met once in 7 years, that’s on a side note.

    Apart from that, he’s super stubborn, and he cares about money in a concerning way, he works like a slave as well, something that I won’t be able to cope with when we will be living together.

    Someone said they’re cheap, I can relate to this.

    They always think they’re right, absolutely, they also always think they’re being deep and can see things in different perspectives that other people don’t see, while in fact it’s just something super shallow that an average human should realize.

    Feel free to comment and say your opinion, I won’t get offended.

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    • My advice as a Romanian man that currently lives in Western Europe, is to forget about him and look for something else.

      Usually (think at the bell curve) the Romanian men that go to work in the Western Europe perceive the women over there as an easy prey, because we see you more open minded and kind. In general the Romanian women know very well who we really are, they already have immunity and their attitude towards us it is a bit reluctant, and so we cannot sell them the same bulls***.

      Speaking to a foreign woman in her language, a Romanian man can dare to tell her whatever he wants because a foreign language will never evoke an emotional reaction to him. No matter how good he speaks it. The average Romanian guy is quite misogynistic (although he may hide it).

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  16. I also did date a Romanian guy before and although I do not like to generalise, I hope this helps another woman.

    I did not know much about Romanian men and I began to do some research only after we ended things. When we first met, he was caring, loving, offered to give me his coat, always paid, was a gentleman etc.

    But it doesn’t take long for the cracks to begin to show. He was selfish, it was always about him. He was incredibly cheap and never wanted to take me on proper dates (I had to force it out of him). He was never willing to compromise. He spoke to me in a very condescending tone and would get angry whenever I said something that went against what he wanted.

    He would expect me to behave a certain way and would go as far as calling me childish if I didn’t. He would speak over me and only apologized once in our 9 months of on and off. He liked to drink and smoke, always had money for drinks and his cigs, but taking me on a real date was an issue.

    I also experienced this “Macho” behavior. It was one of the most toxic relationships I ever had. My emotions were gaslighted and I hope you get to know these type of men better next time before trusting what you see on the surface.

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