Romanian girls are very charming and most of the time not after your money (Note: This is popular Romanian singer, Antonia)

Talking about girls in Romania is very difficult, as there are many possible approaches and generalization might not work, as each girl has her own personality and purpose in life and ways to achieve it, but after receiving a comment from Eric, I decided to try and tackle this delicate matter and write this Romanian Girls “guide” that will hopefully help all those interested in meeting a Romanian woman and know if they can find true love in Romania or they’re just going to get burned and taken advantage of.

First things first: 99% of the girls that I know in this country are amazing persons who would always put love above financial gains and would not even accept the idea of receiving a monthly “allowance” from their boyfriends. Or anything like that.

99% of the Romanian women that I know are strong, independent individuals who are able to make their own money or just make it work with what they have and the help of their family.

So most likely, you will be in a similar situation to mine and meet one of the millions of girls living in Romania who want nothing than a genuine relationship based on mutual love, trust and respect and you will easily find true, honest love in Romania.

But not all Romanian girls are like this and there’s a very small percentage (just like it happens in every country, I would say) that is looking to gain as much financially from you and not really into your charm and good looks.

And you should be careful with this type of girls, since they can be extremely deceptive and eat up all your money before you even know that they’re not really interested in you.

Romanian women are definitely beautiful!

Obviously, this article will focus more on this type of girls and highlight some of their traits so you can stay well away from them.

How to identify Romanian girls who want to take advantage of you and scam you

There are always some signs out there with girls that are more interested in getting your money (and remember, since Romania is a relatively poor country, most foreigners can be considered rich by Romanian standards: our medium wage is about 370 EUR or $490!).

Usually, I would say that if any of the alarm signals listed below are true, you should be really careful and reconsider the relationship with that particular lady. She might not be with you for your good looks and charming personality…

Have in mind that these “signs” are not always a proof that your newly found Romanian girl is only interested in your money, but chances are that she is:

1. Good looking girls that invest a lot in their beauty and are way above your regular grade. I know a few girls who invest all the money they have in fancy clothes, visits to the nail & hair saloon and all possible methods to improve their looks with the only goal in mind being that of getting the attention of the people with money.

They dress to attract attention and, very importantly, they play hard to get (in order not to make their true intentions obvious). They want to make you believe that it’s your win if you manage to get into their good grace and get a date!

Generally, if she seems to be way out of your league and still interested in you, you might have to wonder what her real intentions are. It might happen every now and then to be true interest, but usually it won’t be.

Of course, now you shouldn’t consider all ladies who are careful with their looks like scammers who only want your money.

It’s normal for a lady to want to look good (especially in today’s world when looks seem to be everything), but if she goes above and beyond to afford her clothes, makeup and jewelry or asks you for money for it… these are alarm signals!

2. She is surrounded by single ladies who seem to have a similar attire and attitude. A group of Victoria’s Secret model lookalikes is most likely a group of girls not looking for true love. Otherwise, they’d certainly not be single. Or at least some of them wouldn’t.

Some of these girls might even work in “pairs” making you think that you scored big when they decide to both join you… but don’t be fooled here. These will obviously not be ladies for a long term relationship.

3. Clubbing is her life. Clubs are for hook-ups mostly and everybody knows it. Although there might be genuine ladies interested in real relationships hanging out in clubs (that’s the place where you can meet new people, duh!), if they like to spend all their time in clubs, they’re probably not looking for commitment.

4. She never has the intention to pay for anything and orders the expensive(ish) products. This is another sign that she might not be interested by anything else but your money.

It is customary in Romania for the man to pay for the drinks (and/or food if applicable), and even small gifts are acceptable at first, but it’s also common sense that the girl should at least offer to pay for her share, even if she knows or expects you to pay for it.

So if she doesn’t even bother to look at the bill, that’s a clear signal that this is how things will go from that moment onward.

5. She owns a lot of things that she wouldn’t afford otherwise. The comment that inspired me to write this article talked about a girl that just finished college, had no job and no plans to get one soon, yet she had an 80,000 EUR apartment paid in full (this is a humongous amount here in Romania) and driving a 2019-model BMW, which was all paid for too.

Unless her parents were incredibly rich and supported her, that money came from taking advantage of other men’s weaknesses. So always be on the lookout and if she has things she can’t really afford, be careful!

It doesn’t have to be expensive apartments and fancy cars, it can be just expensive jewelry and designer clothes. When you’re earning 300 EUR per month, it’s very difficult to buy nothing but genuine Armani bags and tons of gold and diamonds if you don’t have somebody else paying for it!

6. She outright asks for money. This should be on the top of the list, actually. If she asks for money or subtly hints that you should give her some, she might not be the soul mate you are looking for.

Some girls even come up with sad stories: their parents are sick, their siblings are sick, somebody close to them is in really bad debt, some terrible accident happened and they need some money.

They can be extremely creative here and extremely convincing as well that they’re nothing but genuine, honest persons that truly need help… but usually that’s not the case.

If you really suspect that it’s indeed true what they say and you really want to help, try to make sure that the problem they’re talking about is indeed real (by visiting the injured relative, for example or something similar).

I know a Romanian girl who was talking with this guy from the UK over the internet, videochatting a lot. She had a really bad tooth and kept saying that she can’t afford to get it fixed, that it’s too expensive for her at about 200 Euros.

Now, this was a really smart thing: the amount itself is not that huge for somebody living in the UK, the problem was obvious (she really had a horrible tooth) and most likely her partner had no idea that she could’ve had it fixed for half that price or less.

Eventually, the guy gave in (without her really asking for the money) and offered to send the money for her to fix her teeth.

As soon as she had the money, she blocked the dude and never talked to him again. Now that’s a bit of work for 200 Euros, but if she manages to do that to at least 3 people per month, she’s already over the average salary in Romania…

7. She’s not always there for you. Although times are changing in Romania too, usually Romanian girls are very dedicated to their partners and extremely loyal and supportive.

There are no reasons for her to spend nights out on her own, be unavailable for hours (without a real reason) or refuse to introduce you to her friends. Most likely, if that happens, she does it because she has obligations and meets other people.

8. Eating out. Again, times are changing, but most of the people living in Romania are not used to eating out a lot. Fancy restaurants are generally out of the question, too.

If she expects to eat out a lot – or do any activities that aren’t so common here in Romania (visiting other countries during the weekends, taking short vacations, ordering expensive items), she might not be interested in true love, but getting the most of your money while they last.

9. She acts like a Prima Donna trophy. The more beautiful she is, the easier to act like this. This generally means that she will do her best to let you know that it’s your win if you’re dating her.

She will play hard to get, she will be very moody, she will openly let you know that she’s high maintenance, she will expect gifts from you (yet she won’t buy anything for you) and generally, she will make sure to let you know how lucky you are to have found her.

And despite all these, she will still refuse to get more intimate with you and always find excuses not to. While we all know that you’re not always in the mood for doing the wild thing, if she’s always not in the mood, this might be a warning sign.

Conclusion

It’s not difficult to find genuine, honest and beautiful women here

These would be things to be aware of when looking for a Romanian girl or woman and true love in this country. Not all the signs must be present for her to be interested only in your money, and it might still mean that she really loves you even if all the signs are present… which, I know, makes things a bit more complicated.

Try to use your common sense instead of letting your heart do the thinking: most of the girls here in Romania are simple, loving and great persons, so the chances of finding a scammer are really slim as long as you keep your eyes open. Good luck finding your match in Romania!

29 COMMENTS

  1. Hi Calin
    I want to thank you for the Romania Girl’s Guide. I think I have found a Romanian lady in the 99% category. I have known this lady for over 18 months, and we have a great friendship. Our obstacles are distance, some 15,186 kilometres to be exact, and the fact that it is so hard for a foreigner to find work there. Any helpful hints on the latter would be great.

    BTW….. the new layout for the blog is outstanding.

    Shawn

    • I am glad to hear that, Shawn! Hopefully you will somehow be able to get past these obstacles. I will do some research on jobs for foreigners, but it’s indeed not easy as far as I know too. Also glad that you like the new layout of the blog!

  2. To misquote Shakespeare: “Vanity, thy name is woman.”
    You struck gold with Wife Romanian as she is a keeper! I went to her site, and I see having a baby is not so easy!
    Personally, I’ve gotten to the age where a woman is first a friend, then a companion. And she understands I am not a love-sick puppy (or an older dog, in my case;-) If things go well, great! However, she will understand there are no “friends with benefits” or my being her “Sugar Daddy.” I avoid women of that ilk like I would Ebola!
    Can’t wait for your installment of “Renovation–Hell!”
    Take care,
    ~Teil (USA)

    • Thank you, Teil! The thing is I got very lucky too! I have a great husband and he is an awesome dad and my best friend! And yeah, a baby is not that easy, but my life improved to a degree that makes any bump in the road seem so little. I can’t even remember the hard parts we went through! ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. Another very good article. I would challenge the 99% quite honestly in Romania & say it was more like 20%, at most 30%. I’ve been lucky mostly to stay in that zone but I know 3 of the wrong type to every one of the right type.

    However, here is one of the most amusing & most accurate guides to women available today. Universal, not restricted to Romania. Very very true as well as ingeniously funny.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hKWmFWRVLlU

    Look & learn

    • Thank you! Maybe you’ve been terribly unlucky, or maybe I was very lucky :)) We still need some more opinions on this to find the right percentage of non-scamming ladies in Romania ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. My name is made i like Romania so much that I will love to stay there and work as a soccer player later start a family can you led me to a good online site may who know I can meet my wife soon or introduced me to a nice lady over there thanls

    • Hello Ade,

      Nice to see that a Brighton player is visiting this blog. I hope you’ll have a great stay in Romania! Regarding your other question, I wouldn’t worry too much as I am sure you will have no problem meeting nice ladies as a football player here in Romania. Good luck!

      PS: What team will you be playing for?

  5. Would just like to add, watch out for the video chat hostesses/ camgirls. I recently fell for one and then she started asking for gifts/money. I sent her quite a bit asking her to quit being a camgirl and to come live with me where I could provide a more fulfilling life for her. Once she realized I wasn’t going to be sending anymore because I confronted her about it, all of a sudden the relationship changed and we broke up… watch out for those gold diggers/ pro daters!

    • also, I found out she lied about everything. Said she was single, but she actually had a child and a boyfriend/husband. Half the time I was on skype talking to her I was actually talking to her boyfriend. Turns out she was a paid girl giving me the ‘girlfriend’ experience. She is currently on vacation with another one of her ‘boyfriends.’ be careful folks! Always meet in person before sending money any financial assistance. I should have known better but now I know!

  6. Happens everywhere and not just in Romania. I met my Romanian wife over internet and sent money. I then got on a plane to go meet and we are currently married and i am planning to retire to Romania. Like anything be careful and smart but amazing and bad things can happen in life. The Romanian woman like all woman are awesome. Just saying..

  7. Romanian women have ugly manners,low levels of education,are easy to be angered.Dont believe the junk propaganda of youtube and sites which show Romania in bright colours !
    adevarul umbla cu capul spart ! says an ancient wise saying in Dacoromanian language.
    the truth is extreme to make it moderate is to lie !

    • You forgot to add “some” at the beginning of your comment. If we are to go with old saying, there’s another one: “Fiecare padure are uscaturile ei,” translated as “Every forest has its rotten trees”. I am sorry that you had such a poor experience in Romania and I can only hope that by the time you leave, something positive will happen, something to make you change your mind.

      • Well dude! From my GreekItaliki arvanite arumanian age 34 180 cm blondish decent mannered well clothed trendy old fashioned PhD in Geography of Tourism Romania National University Alexandru Ioan Cuza of Bucharest.. I assure u most Rumanian women and men ages 20 till 50 LACK PROPER MANNERS ARE EASY TO BE OFFENDED HAVE NARROW MINDED HORSE GLASSES AND DONT SYMPATHISE EVEN THOSE European folks or non European folks who helped them in harsh times…. Take ur Romania and Romanian absurd selfish insecure depressed self proclaimed DacoRomanian Byzantine Orthodox Demographically collapsing folk from my soul and mind..AS SOON AS IN 2018 A MAJOR UNREST HAPPENS HERE IN THIS PERIBALKAN REGION ..I can finally take my life in my own hands and leave for my own dreamland Maltia Argentinakia etc..I dont need West Europe North America Australia New Zealand they are collapsing demographically and later this implies also political social economic collapse..Ciau Yasas Democracy this empty of meaning Greek word as of 2018..democracy says Not anybody is obliged to follow official internet sites or mass media insight of controversies like Cold War Nuremberg Trials Ww1 Zionism Marxist Experiment etc..I disagree I get called names from Tatar Turk and their narrow minded equally arrogant physically mentally violent Romanian brothers; BTW Romanians are Slavs and Sarmatians rather than Thracian Italic Illyrian sons of Rome ! I am more likely to have those genes above plus Armenian Berber Egyptian Hispanic etc..I have an aquiline type of nose Cleopatra or Syrian Hala Basha Gorani model…I am also tall slender I am not bald obese by my age standards like other European men! Have a nice day.. I don’t know if u have Rumanian ancestry citizenship or a Rumanian ephemeral supermodel changed ur mind to make such praise of Romania..BTW Romanian women age fast many smoke in public drink coffee use mascara make up are money materialist obsessed and treat their kids badly very often..not my common sense realustic opinion or insight but also others ; by the way I speak better Rumanian than others its written imi not i- mi OK? even aliens spell better the grammar this boring language than Romanians who live here or left forever capisci endaxi phile amigo?

      • Without proper punctuation marks or paragraphs, your reply is almost impossible to follow, so I was only able to read between every other line.

        But I must say that the cons of women drinking coffee and wearing make-up really made me smile. ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Girls are same across borders๐Ÿคฃ. but Romanians are very much independent and strong in nature. I felt they are bit innocent and self driven. can’t complain.

  8. Where can I share photos of a real scammer.
    Yes for nearly 3 years I have had a great friend called Luminita Ionita 40 from Valcea.
    All seemed great to me until I discovered she was going on multiple holidays every year for money, just a cheap escort, lying to me she with family that why phone not work,
    In March this year she has lumps removed from her breasts which I paid 7000 Euro for because I loved her,
    As soon as surgery recovered I find how much she has been lying to me,
    Only sent about 25000 Euro in 3 years,
    Ok my fault and money is gone , thatโ€™s life,
    But I want to warn others of this lady,
    Put her photo on the internet so all can see her.
    Just a sucker for a beautiful lady, She tells to many lues

  9. Funny that you need a long article to warn foreigners about Romanian girls scam while pretending that 99% off Romanian girls have no interest in your money. That seems contradictory and from personal experience not true. It’s not true anywhere in the world but Romania is one of the countries where honey traps are the most common. That said, with a little common sense, you can avoid them.

    I also don’t think it’s useful to confuse scammers with girls who persuade you to spend money on them. Not only is that not the same behaviour, the result is different for the guy. I would divide girls who are interested in your money in 3 categories:

    1- Scammers are people who will try to extort money by lying to you. The goal is steal money from you, not having a good time on a rich guy’s dime. This type of thing is generally illegal. It’s not illegal to convince a boyfriend to spend money on you. The victim of a female scammer is always emotionally devastated. Not true for the guy who showers his girl with expensive gifts and meals. And all things considered, there are relatively few girls like that (less than 1% of girls in their 20s and you can generally spot them easily).

    2- Much more common (perhaps 10% of the population of hot babes) are the girls who use guys as a convenience. Free meals at the restaurant, free shoes and handbags, perhaps help with their rent or anything else, they can be very persuasive. Maybe some people think this is bad behaviour but it is merely opportunistic. Guys are not forced to spend any money and you often get a treat out of these women in the shape of some pretty unforgettable nights! The more you give them, the more they give you! Now if you’re well off, and as a foreign man in Romania, you’re likely to be, spending 100 euros on a gift or an evening out is not a lot of money. If you’re rich, 100 euros is peanuts to you. But having a 25 years old beauty who’s 10 or 20 years younger than you in your bed is priceless! So really, who is using who is this case?

    3- Girls who just like their boyfriend to have money. I hate to break it to you but that’s probably half of all good looking young women. For them, wealth is hot and a form of social status (and women in general look for that in a man). It’s also a marker of qualities such as competence, intelligence and confidence. Most of these girls will make no secret of it: they want winners, full stop. They want you to spend money on them because they feel they are worth it and being around a successful man gives them social validation. And usually when they have you, they wanna keep you (especially Romanian girls who are very possessive).

    Regarding scammers, what’s kind of sad is that rich guys are aware of most of the tricks scammers will use. We’ve seen it all before and I’ve been lucky enough to only have experienced the girl who uses you as a convenience (and ore often than not got hot nights in return so all good in my opinion). But the real scammers, we don’t really fall for it. The result is that they will be more successful with guys who aren’t rich and are unaware. It’s the weak who end up victims, not the strong (who, at least, could afford it and it wouldn’t be a tragedy). That’s the sad things about it, the victims are the one who can least afford to fall prey to this.

    Finally, there is another category of girls looking at your money that I haven’t mentioned: the young single mom. Some of them are hot but they are in a really tough spot financially. It’s hard to support yourself and a child on a small income and very little from the state. If they somehow meet you and you have a bunch of money, you are like some kind of miracle coming down from the heavens. Sometimes, their finances has been so tight for so long that they even forgot what real luxury was (if they ever experienced it in the first place). They don’t party, they neither have the time nor the money for that. They tend to be subtle about it but they really, really want you in their lives so you can rescue them from their misery.

    I had the pleasure of having a fling with one when I was living in Bucharest (and I’m still in contact with her) and I could tell she wasn’t used to the good times. Just going to a restaurant in Lipscani was unusual to her. She fell pregnant a few years back and her man dumped her. Classy guy! She wasn’t the model type party girl, more like the impossibly cute “girl next door” and took good care of her appearance. She told me she had not had a BF ever since. She was working as a receptionist in a hotel (earning little money) and then needed to do the single mom thing. She had little free time and couldn’t go out of her apartment in the evening very often. She had to ask for her mum to take care of her son when we were out on a date or she was overnight at my place. God she was pleasant to be with! Despite her difficult life, she always had the cutest smile on her face.

    Obviously, for an unattached guy, a cash-strapped single mom with no time isn’t exactly the most appealing choice of intimate partner, especially given the other options that exist in Bucharest. These girls come with a lot of baggage and plenty of sad stories. After a few weeks of fun, I realised that the step dad role wasn’t going to be my thing so I ended the relationship but we are still on speaking terms online. I gave her a thousand euros and I occasionally send her some cash via PayPal so she can have a more comfortable life.

    All this to say that a girl could be interested in your money for all sorts of reasons, some good, others not so good.

    • Hey Digital Nomad,

      I really loved reading your answer! Thanks for taking your time to answer it. It seems that you know things much better than I do as a happily married guy and I am happy that you decided to share your stories. I think that everything you said is unfortunately true. It does sound like the description of today’s society though, so I wonder if it’s just in Romania or other places as well ๐Ÿ™‚ Either way, good read!

  10. Hello met a Romanian woman while vacationing in Dubai we hit it off and since returning back to US, we have been texting daily just applied for her visa, any words of caution? She has not hit me up for money at all although she seems to be reluctant to travel here without her GF tagging along. Your thoughts?

    • She could do this just to feel secure: having somebody she knows close to her reduces the risks of something bad happening to her, in my opinion. If you were just vacationing there, you were probably together for just a short period of time, so I would say it’s not strange for her to still be a bit cautious. Hope everything goes well!

  11. Here is the latest update, she just hit me up for $2k asking me for money stating she is desperate and has no one else to ask except me. I politely told her no thank you! I am unable to offer help at this time. Glad i came here read all the post, this type of scamming seems common with these woman. Guys anyone out there BEWARE of them.

  12. Am travelling to romania next month i will be happy to get some tips from you and my reason to go there is to find a girl to get married from her
    Please do for me a favor where can i find good an poor girls with truly love
    Thanx in advance and I appreciate it

  13. Thank you for this accurate analysis of some cases of female scamming before being ladies…
    Unfortunatly I have to confess I have fall two times in the trap with 2 scammers of Galati whose names are Maria 24 yo and Anamaria 34 yo.. Two gold diggers and pro daters…
    They are absolutely in line with what you say… Take care ! Dont show them your wallet… Thanks god I am less weak now !
    I am less optimistic about the proportion that it goes in Romania to have been there very recently… I think the 99% is realy lower nowadays..
    Your guide will be very usefull, thanks.

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